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Rules of a Muslim Home

Rule No:14 - Mashwarah (consulting) in a Muslim Home

Our beloved Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam, despite his vast knowledge and wisdom, was instructed by Allah Ta’ala to consult with his noble Sahaabah (Radiyallahu anhum) (companions) and make mashwarah with them regarding to important issues as is indicated in the above aayah.

If Nabi B, the best of all mankind and the pride of the creation of Allah Ta’ala, was commanded to  consult with others, how much more important is it for us to also consult with each other in our day to day issues.

Sixth Rule: Ta’leem (Learning and Teaching) & Ibaadah (Worship)


Ta'leem

A Muslim home should never be void of the remembrance of Allah Ta’ala at any time. Learning, teaching and engaging in the Ibaadah (worship) of Allah Ta’ala should be an integral part of every Muslim home. In the days of the Sahaabah it was common among them that they would make their homes into places of learning Deen. Sayyidinah Umar Ibn Khattaab (Radiyallahu Anhu) was inspired to accept Islaam because of the same reason. When he visited the home of his sister Faatima, she and her husband, Saeed bin Zaid (Radiyallahu Anhuma), were learning the Qur'an from Hadhrat Khabbaab (Radiyallahu Anhu).

In Madinah Munawwarah, Hadhrat Umar Farooq (Radiyallahu Anhu) had lived some distance away from the Masjidun Nabawi. On account of the distance, he could not be present in the masjid all the time. He then arranged with one of his neighbours that they both would take turns to go to Masjidun Nabawi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) on alternate days. Hence on the day that he attended the Musjid, he would go to the home of his companion and teach him what he had learnt from Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). His companion would also do the same. In this manner they would remain fully informed of the teachings of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam).

Fifth Rule: (Isti'zaan) Seeking Permission before entering the Home

 

A home is a place where one finds peace. Allah Ta’ala Himself declares in the Holy Qur’aan that He has created homes for us to acquire peace and comfort. One can only enjoy this peace and comfort if one is safe from unnecessary interferences and disturbances. Islaam has taught us a very important etiquette in this regard which is called Isti’zaan (to seek permission before entering a home). Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Qur’aan:

O! You who Believe Let your slaves and your children first ask your permission (before they come to you in your privacy) on three occasions: before the Fajar Salaah; while you remove your extra clothing for the mid day heat; and after the Esha Salaah.

 

Wisdom of seeking permission

Seeking permission eliminates the possibility of obscenity and immorality. If one enters someone’s home without seeking permission, it is possible that one may see the women of the house which may lead to haraam or forbidden situations. Furthermore, one may be engaged in intimate or personal activities which require privacy. If someone enters unannounced, one will be deprived of privacy.

Fourth Rule: Tarbiyah of our Families

 

Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan:

O you who have Imaan! Save yourselves and your families from the fire (of Jahannum).

We understand from this aayah the importance of the proper Islaamic tarbiyah (nuturing) of our families.

The main cause of children being spoilt is our lack of interest in their tarbiyah. It is the incumbent responsibility of both the parents to bring up and nurture their children Islamically. However, a greater responsibility lies upon the mother, since the children grow up mainly in her care.

Parents should try and gain the maximum out of their children by moulding their behaviour in accordance with the Shariah. Besides benefiting the children it will also benefit us. Whatever good accrues from them, we will also have a share in the reward they attain. Every Salaah they perform, every aayah of the Qur’aan they recite and every other good deed that they may perform, a share of the reward will also be reserved for us as well.

Third Rule: Speaking in a Soft Tone

 

In the Qur’aan-e-Majeed it is mentioned that Allah Ta’ala has made the home of a believer a place of peace and tranquillity. Thus we understand that among the etiquettes of a Muslim home is that members of the household refrain from doing anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity. This includes thoughtless and loud disturbing speech.

On one occasion Sayyidunah Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) stopped the Sahaabah (Radi Allahu Anhu) from even reciting the Qur’aan in a very loud tone in the event that it may disturb others.

It is mentioned in a Hadith that “A Muslim is he, who other Muslims are safe from the harms of his tongue and his hands”. People living in the same house are more than neighbours and more than just friends. Therefore, it is imperative that they should not hurt one another in any way. Among the most annoying and hurtful behaviour is making noise at home or raising one’s voice so loudly that it distresses others. Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Qur’aan about the qualities of His close servants that when they walk, they walk softly and silently so that they do not disturb others with the sound of their feet.

Second Rule: Neatness and Orderliness

Al-Hamdulillah in the last issue, the importance of cleanliness in our homes was discussed. Just as important as it is to keep our homes clean, so should we also keep it neat, tidy, orderly and well organized. The Hadith very emphatically teaches us to be neat and organized in whatever we do.

On one occasion Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said to the Sahaabah:

 

In this Hadith, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) explicitly commands the Sahaabah to straighten their saddles and neaten their clothes so as to look presentable in the sight of people.

First Rule: Cleanliness and Purification

 

Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Allah Ta'ala is Pure and likes Purity, He is Clean and likes Cleanliness, He is Generous and likes Generosity, He is Hospitable and loves Hospitality, so clean your courtyards and do not resemble the Jews.” (Tirmidhi)

One of the very essential characteristics of a Muslim regarding himself and his home is cleanliness. When a Muslim is particular about cleanliness and purification, he is distinguished from other people. To achieve purity and cleanliness of the soul, a Muslim has to start by purifying his body, clothes, furniture and other things.

Furthermore every Muslim should choose a place in his house for Salaah and Ibaadah. This is so that he may be able to carry out the necessary Ibaadaat such as salaah, tilaawat of the Qur’aan, zikr etc. with great care.

Rules of a Muslim Home

In the present era of trials and tribulations, with evil and fitnah surrounding us in every direction there is no better sanctuary for a Muslim than his home.Once a Sahaabi asked Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) for the key to success? Among other advices Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Let your home be sufficient for you.” As far as possible one should remain in his home. Allah Ta'ala has referred to the home of a person as a place of sukoon (peace).

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