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Fourth Rule: Tarbiyah of our Families


Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan:

O you who have Imaan! Save yourselves and your families from the fire (of Jahannum).

We understand from this aayah the importance of the proper Islaamic tarbiyah (nuturing) of our families.

The main cause of children being spoilt is our lack of interest in their tarbiyah. It is the incumbent responsibility of both the parents to bring up and nurture their children Islamically. However, a greater responsibility lies upon the mother, since the children grow up mainly in her care.

Parents should try and gain the maximum out of their children by moulding their behaviour in accordance with the Shariah. Besides benefiting the children it will also benefit us. Whatever good accrues from them, we will also have a share in the reward they attain. Every Salaah they perform, every aayah of the Qur’aan they recite and every other good deed that they may perform, a share of the reward will also be reserved for us as well.

Third Rule: Speaking in a Soft Tone


In the Qur’aan-e-Majeed it is mentioned that Allah Ta’ala has made the home of a believer a place of peace and tranquillity. Thus we understand that among the etiquettes of a Muslim home is that members of the household refrain from doing anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity. This includes thoughtless and loud disturbing speech.

On one occasion Sayyidunah Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) stopped the Sahaabah (Radi Allahu Anhu) from even reciting the Qur’aan in a very loud tone in the event that it may disturb others.

It is mentioned in a Hadith that “A Muslim is he, who other Muslims are safe from the harms of his tongue and his hands”. People living in the same house are more than neighbours and more than just friends. Therefore, it is imperative that they should not hurt one another in any way. Among the most annoying and hurtful behaviour is making noise at home or raising one’s voice so loudly that it distresses others. Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Qur’aan about the qualities of His close servants that when they walk, they walk softly and silently so that they do not disturb others with the sound of their feet.

Second Rule: Neatness and Orderliness

Al-Hamdulillah in the last issue, the importance of cleanliness in our homes was discussed. Just as important as it is to keep our homes clean, so should we also keep it neat, tidy, orderly and well organized. The Hadith very emphatically teaches us to be neat and organized in whatever we do.

On one occasion Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said to the Sahaabah:


In this Hadith, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) explicitly commands the Sahaabah to straighten their saddles and neaten their clothes so as to look presentable in the sight of people.

First Rule: Cleanliness and Purification


Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Allah Ta'ala is Pure and likes Purity, He is Clean and likes Cleanliness, He is Generous and likes Generosity, He is Hospitable and loves Hospitality, so clean your courtyards and do not resemble the Jews.” (Tirmidhi)

One of the very essential characteristics of a Muslim regarding himself and his home is cleanliness. When a Muslim is particular about cleanliness and purification, he is distinguished from other people. To achieve purity and cleanliness of the soul, a Muslim has to start by purifying his body, clothes, furniture and other things.

Furthermore every Muslim should choose a place in his house for Salaah and Ibaadah. This is so that he may be able to carry out the necessary Ibaadaat such as salaah, tilaawat of the Qur’aan, zikr etc. with great care.


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